Save Your Marriage. Keep Your Family
Couples therapy that will help each of you show up at your best
- Stop the cycle of conflict
- Avoid the catastrophic breakdowns
- Enjoy more intimacy and connection
- Rediscover your best friend
The same marriage problems keep coming back
One of you is out of work, or struggling to hold a job. Money is uncertain and the pressure feels like it might break you.
One of you sacrifices everything to keep the home running. You lock yourself in the bathroom with all the water running just to have a couple moments to yourself.
Every hard conversation with him hits the same walls. The whole family feels the tension.
Couples are made of individuals
Everyone brings some baggage to the table, whether it’s personality, preference, past hurt, or all the above.
Trying to address problems in your relationship without bringing some awareness to your personal issues first can stall your process by years.
The marriage changes when each of you gets help first.
Each partner gets their own sessions first
We start with the memories that shaped how you see yourself, because that is something we can work on right away.
Once you loosen up and feel better about yourself, we work on the present. Then, when you are ready, we bring your partner in and work on the marriage together.
This is help for your marriage that begins with you
I meet with both partners individually before we come together as a couple, which gives each of you room to speak freely and lets us find the individual issues behind the strain in the relationship.
- End a hard conversation without the old pattern repeating
- Handle the stress of the household with more capacity
- See yourself in a positive light
- Begin something meaningful to you that also fits your family
Assess, heal, then meet as a couple
Assess
I meet the couple, together or separately as they prefer, with the goal of improving the relationship. You choose how we begin.
Heal What You Bring
We identify trauma and anything else contributing to the strain, and I do trauma work with one or both partners, often including EMDR. This softens each person and gets them ready for couples work.
Meet as a Couple
Once each of you has loosened up through individual work, you come together with more capacity to handle stress, forgive, and see yourselves in a positive light. Peace in the marriage comes first.
Why Couples Trust Me
Each Partner Heard First
Each of you meets with me on your own before you come together, so you can speak freely at the start, when couples are most sensitive.
Trauma Named for What It Is
Trauma gets named in the open, because you have often carried a whole marriage full of it.
Trauma-trained, Licensed in Utah
I’m Ryan Judson, a Clinical Mental Health Counselor (CMHC) licensed in Utah, with more than 15 years of EMDR practice. Most of my couples work includes trauma treatment with at least one partner.
- Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Utah
My husband is not ready yet. Can I start alone?
Yes, I meet with each partner individually first. That’s ok too, because it’s also more often the case that the other is not far behind.
Will this ask me to set aside my faith or family?
Your family and your faith stay intact while you work on yourself. This is my own private practice, with no church affiliation.
Why does couples therapy here include trauma work?
It is rare that I do no trauma work with at least one partner. That work makes each person more ready for couples sessions, and couples tell me they prefer it this way.
Where does EMDR fit in?
EMDR belongs to the second chapter, inside the trauma work with one or both partners. I bring more than 15 years of EMDR practice to it.
What does the free consultation involve?
It’s a chance for you to talk through what’s coming up at home. Just telling someone can bring relief. I’ll let you know if I think I’m the right fit for your goals. And if I’m not, I will point you to resources that can help.
Peace at home, and room to ask for your needs
Picture a hard conversation that ends without the old pattern repeating.
You are both able to respect the challenges that each of you is facing.
You’re able to discuss your vision for the future and how you want to grow together.
Couples sessions are hybrid, at the Pleasant Grove office or online.
Sessions are billed directly, with superbills provided for out-of-network reimbursement, and costs are explained before the first session.